Saturday, 18 May 2013

Being average

We are all born to be great, yet a lot of us make the decision to be 'average.' Ever get that feeling when you see a really great body transformation get all motivated hyped up, feeling that greatness about to burst out of you. Yet its easier seeing a video of a body transformation then to put in sweat blood and tears to get to where that person is. Or when you meet an inspiring person who has achieved their dreams their goals. Whether it is becoming an elite sportsmen, or a doctor, or taking the risk and opening  up a business which turns out to be successful, or saving up enough money to travel the world, or helping the sick in developing countries, or promoting peace. You stir up, you feel pumped up, you feel that you can also achieve your dreams and aspirations. Or when you lose yourself in songs listening to your favourite artists and inside your like man if only I can be that person, that should be me. We are all attracted to greatness, but its so much easier to see greatness to watch greatness rather then put in the time, the energy to discipline yourself to makes sacrifices. So thats why your average, thats why your frustrated. Your not suppose to live like you should live, have what you should have, your not being who you should be and thats why you don't wanna wake up in the morning. Thats why you hate Mondays cause Monday is suppose to be the day that your suppose to mow and shape your greatness, and thats why you love Friday cause on Friday you don't have to face reality, you can chill. Cause everyone can forgot about that they didn't become who they are suppose to be. 

And thats why I hate myself sometimes, sometimes I go to bed thinking man Denny you should of done that today, why don't you try harder in your studies, why are you wasting precious time, why don't you do the things you want to do rather then the things everyone else wants you to do, why aren't you carving out the person your suppose to be. 

Sometimes you just have all these amazing goals and aspiration, but it takes to much effort and time so you settle for something else, something 'average' then you hate yourself for it afterwards. The way the human mind works is just so interesting. The idea of being comfortable and average seems appealing to a vast majority of people. This is why we see so many people in jobs, uni courses relationships that they are not happy in. Unfamiliarity scares and intimidates people, and this fear is what hinders personal growth.Most of us are all scared of failure if they though we haven't even tried yet. 

'Suffer the pain of disciplined, or else suffer the pain of regret'

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Accepting Yourself, Mind Over Matter

If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behaviour and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.
This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.
What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.
Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.
So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.
I think these days we always seeking the approval of others, feel the need to fit in to something in order to feel a sense of belonging. Sometimes we even go out to seek a successful personality and attempt to duplicate it.  I mean always always being yourself, expressing yourself and having faith in yourself is a hard thing. We do it sometimes, but other times we forget or back into old thoughts patterns. 
But I believe that being the real you will work better. Because there the genuine you is shining through. Without incongruency, mixed mesisages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. It’s you to 100%. It’s you with not only your words but you with your voice tonality and body language  which some say is over 90% of communication on the same wavelength as your words. It’s you coming through on all channels of communication.
So I’m not saying: “yeah man, you should just be yourself because it’s the right thing to do etc.” I’m saying that I think being your authentic self   the one that needs little validation from others, the one where your ego is not running the show and trying to get something from someone – will give more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself. And because people really like genuine and people really like authenticity.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.
And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.
If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self imposed roadblock in your life.
It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Jay Sean song 'Where you are'  is so good its addictive

One of the Janoskians is dating Ariana Grande, that guy must of had smooth moves wooing a girl all the way from Australia haha

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